I had one of those experiences yesterday that even just a few years ago, I would have just accepted. Tried to move on and said nothing. But somehow, I won't do this anymore. I think part of the reason for this is my creation of my one woman show "Flying in the dark" That made me stronger and more confident as a woman who is blind. Also, I feel I need to be a voice for myself and sometimes others who did what I would have done and said nothing.
Yesterday, on my way to teach someone how to use her iPhone, I stopped in a cafe for an iced tea. I had a few minutes and thought that I would sit down, sip my tea, go over my lesson plan or read a book.
I found the cafe by myself with the assistance of my trusty guide dog. I entered. Found the line up.
I got to the counter and ordered.
I also asked if the person could carry my tea for me. I did request it in a take out cup which turned out to be smart.
As I stood there, a man approached the counter. He did not talk to me. He said, "I have a seat for her."
The woman at the counter (bless her) said, "Are you going to sit down?"
"Yes." I said.
"I will take you to my table." he said. Then proceeded to grab me and push me towards the table.
He shoved me into a chair and said, "I did my good deed for the day."
Just then, the poor server came with my drink.
The man said to the server, "Now you will go to heaven."
What? Heaven? For doing your job and delivering a drink to someone.
I almost put my head phones in and sat there. Then, I thought, "No! No! I won't sit at a table with this person! I won't be quiet! I won't stay in this situation!"
I leaped to my feet, brandishing my iced tea!
The man said, "You are not staying?" I said very loudly and clearly so everyone in the vicinity could hear. "I am not an inanimate object. I am not your good deed for the day! ANd, I am not sitting at a table with someone who thinks like you!"
And I marched out of the cafe! Tea in one hand. Dog in the other!
So angry but yet so proud!
I was not silent! I was not making a joke of it! I said what I needed to say and I left!